I would like to take a little bit of time to discuss something that I find highly disturbing: metrosexuality
and its effect on the modern man.
A lot of talk floats around about it and how essentially it is the acceptance by men of things once considered strictly feminine in nature. One prime example is a strong concern for ones appearance and how others perceive it. The impression I get from the statements that prior to the rise of the metrosexual men didn't overly concern themselves with appearance is that we basically must have been total slobs; creatures covered in hair and dirty who constantly smelled of alcohol, cigarette smoke, and motor oil.
This of course is utterly retarded from top to bottom, we might get dirty at work, or in the garage working on that old car but I don't think I've met a single real man who would sit around and smell like shit for days on end simply because he enjoyed it. I honestly don't think caring what others thing about you is a good thing, why should anybody spend extra hours of their life and wads of money to dress in the bleeding edge (and often short lived) fashion just because its the hip and in thing to do? Of course your not a with it and up-to-date man now if you don't douse yourself in some foul scented cologne, drop 1000s of dollars on name-brand clothes, and develop a diet much like that of a rabbit.
Thats another aspect of this whole thing that gets me; the over hype of a health-centric lifestyle. I'm not saying that there is anything wrong with being healthy at all, however when as a man you start thinking about the benefits of a vegan lifestyle you seriously need to come back to reality. And its not that things are any less healthy than they were when our fathers were our age, its just that back then people had real jobs and didn't spend all day behind a computer or a desk. You might work a 9-5 at a grocery store tossing around boxes and filling bags, then get off and go play a game of ball with the guys or go help dad work on some home improvement project; the point is that even twenty years ago people weren't as sedentary as they are today and it shows in the growth of our collective waistline.
Even in the one department of sex we have seen dramatic changes in the past decade or so. Prior to this fad with the emasculation of men it was unheard of for a man to obsess about the woman getting off first, in fact it was a common complaint that women would share amongst their peers frequently. Fast-forward to today; poles have shifted and now its more important for you to do everything in your power to ensure that she gets hers first and often.
If you happen to be unable to climax after that because you are physically exhausted or impaired from an ointment or pill use to desensitize yourself for her gain then its just too damn bad, she wont give a shit other than to then deride you for not getting off, further compounding a situation that is already seriously screwed up. Hell if you happen to get there first you can bet that you will face accusations of being a womanizer, misogynist, player, and every other slag she can think of simply because you didn't sacrifice
yourself for her pleasure.
Traditional masculine norms, as described in Dr. Ronald F. Levant’s Masculinity Reconstructed are: “avoidance of femininity; restricted emotions; sex disconnected from intimacy; pursuit of achievement and status; self-reliance; strength and aggression; and homophobia.”
So let me get this straight, we are now supposed to write off achievement and and ambition for increased status (presumably to make way for newly empowered women), move towards being dependent on others, and disown the concepts of strength and aggression which have been common masculine traits for hundreds of years? I don't see how prostrating ourselves before society and essentially abdicating all power, duty and responsibility to women is in any way a service to them, I would think they would find it insulting to be given such things rather than earning them by hard work and determination.
Self reliance shouldn't really be viewed as a purely masculine thing and I think to a certain extent it isn't anymore, however I don't see a reason that as women become empowered, independent and generally closer to social equality with men that we should take a giant step backwards either. How it would be an improvement over times past to have men dependent upon women for everything instead of vice-versa is absolutely beyond me and I suspect it is the same for many others as well.
Again with strength and aggression we find that a medium must be struck; leaders in any field must have a certain degree of both be they men or women. People follow a leader who exhibits these qualities and is willing to lead from the front in a decisive manner and will tend to perform better than those under the leadership of someone who fails to show such traits. As men we shouldn't give this up (its what we need to have when called upon to into battle, defend our families, or compete in pretty much any field) and truthfully women should learn to get in touch with their sources of strength and aggression as well to learn to better control them.
In short we have primed ourselves for failure in the long run because we are working to deny what makes us men and in doing so we do a disservice to ourselves, our peers, and shockingly enough to women as well though they don't yet realize it.
Labels: emasculation, mextrosexuality, rant